the worst wedding advice ever given…
The Knot came up with some of the worst wedding advice ever given…. Take a read….
1.) “I must wear a white dress”–The bad advice stems from a traditional Grandma, who was afraid that guests would think that her granddaughter wasn’t a virgin. The Knot says that this rule is totally antiquated. Wear whatever color flatters your skin tone. My co-worker even wore a purple gown to her wedding! And she looked STUNNING!
lemon & lime’s thoughts: You don’t need to wear white at all.. you can wear whatever you’d like. BUT you may regret it if you go too crazy.
2.) “It’s your wedding, and this day is all about you!”–As badly as I want this statement to be true, it’s not. Yes, it is MY wedding, but just like I would accept my Academy Award “I can’t forget about the little people.” It’s just simple consideration for your friends, family, guests.
lemon & lime’s thoughts: It is mostly about the couple, but your main goal is to make sure you and all of your guests have a great time celebrating your marriage!
3.) “Type up and print generic thank-you notes ahead of time, and just slap a label {of your names} on them instead of signing them”–Sure, it’s a time-saver. But it’s also extremely tacky. I received a thank-you note just like this one and it made me feel like a number, and not special. They didn’t even mention the gift, which was NOT on the registry.
lemon & lime’s thoughts: A huge NO NO.
4.) “Send invites to people you know will not come.”–This is the exact argument I am having with my fiance and his family. Just like The Knot says, those hopeful no-shows may decide to make an appearance. I cannot run this risk. My venue taps out at 115 and I will not invite anymore than that. I refuse to invite anyone to “be polite” and if they respect my fiance and I, they will understand that we couldn’t accommodate everyone on such a small budget.
lemon & lime’s thoughts: Totally agree with The Knot…only invite people based on what your budget allows. Even if you think they won’t come… they may.
5.) “If it’s not a diamond, then it’s not a real engagement ring.” – The Knot says it perfectly: Kate Middleton rocks a sapphire, and ladies in Greece wear pearls. Wear what you love, or at least what was given to you.
6.) “Someone told me to ship the gown to New Jersey to avoid paying NYC taxes.”–First of all, that’s tax evasion and second if there are astronomical charges to ship, the most economical solution would be to pick it up at the salon yourself. That’s what I did to avoid being charged $100 extra to ship to 2 hours away.
7.) “My mother suggested having the cocktail hour BEFORE the ceremony.”–File this underExtremely Stupid Idea, your guests would be sloshed before the band could play “Here comes the Bride.”The Knot suggests serving non-alcoholic beverages like lemonade or cucumber water before hand. Since my wedding is in November, I want to serve mulled cider to keep our guests warm and in the seasonal spirit.
lemon & lime’s thoughts: Unless you want your guests drunk at the ceremony, I wouldn’t advise it….save it for after. This isn’t a frat party, so your guest’s don’t expect to drink before AND after the ceremony.
8.) “Take out a loan for the wedding!”–File this under, Worst Idea Ever. Debt is not a way to enter into a marriage, and take out a loan for ONE DAY? There are plenty of inexpensive and meaningful options that you can afford. It may be smart to wait a few years to save diligently, or have a small shindig now and a larger one later on down the road.
lemon & lime: HUGE HUGE DO not do this!
9.) “You’ll want a short engagement so the groom doesn’t change his mind.”–If this is the case…you shouldn’t be getting married. The Knot says, shorter engagements leave you less time to find vendors. Most engagements are over a year long, and planning a wedding is stressful. If your groom runs away during this time, he’d never last the entire marriage. It’s a good trial.
10.) “Cut back on costs and have a potluck and BYOB reception.”–I’m not going to lie, I have pondered this and also just hopping on the next flight to Vegas. However, depending on your preferences and your family’s have a sit down discussion because if this is the advice you’re given, you may have to rethink some things.
lemon & lime’s thoughts: “rethinking” some things may be best here. Have an afternoon wedding with no alcohol, or perhaps just serve wine, or only wine and beer (that you purchase), but BYOB is just not wedding appropriate… especially if you have guests traveling.